Easy? What if it really were easy?

easyI was in the company of some pretty awesome women Friday afternoon.  We gather every month, and when I am with them I feel surrounded by members of my tribe.  I feel at home.  We were having a discussion about how we were influenced by our parents, about expectations, and about how we choose to live now.  One thing that came up, that I’ve been thinking about for a while now, but that cemented for me over the last little while is the concept of easy.

Here’s the definition of easy from Google:

eas·y
ˈēzē/
adjective
  1. 1.
    achieved without great effort; presenting few difficulties.
    “an easy way of retrieving information”
    synonyms uncomplicated, undemanding, unchallenging,effortless, painless, trouble-free, facile, simple,straightforward, elementary;

    When did I decide that it couldn’t be easy? At what point was it decided that life would be hard, and that’s all there was to it?

    I remember clearly being told that things are not easy.  “Nothing easy is worth having.” That was a favorite.  “Life is just hard.” Another favorite.  When you hear things over and over, you eventually believe them…right?

    But, should you? What if, instead, I had believed it WOULD be easy?  That life was amazing. That I could achieve great things without great effort.  What would that be like?

    Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying that we shouldn’t work.  Work is fine.  I love my work…it’s what I do every day and I’m blessed to do it.  But what if I had made the shift years ago to decide that it was easy?

    I learned a few years ago that I could decide what kind of day I was going to have. I could get up and decide to have a good day.  I learned to practice mindfulness, to be present for each moment.  And I believe that’s when I started to learn that it could be EASY.

    I’m not saying without effort.  I’m definitely not saying without challenge.  But I am saying that we can meet these endeavors, all our endeavors, with an attitude of ease.  We can decide that we will be light, and reframe how we approach our lives.  We can connect to each moment, we can live an inspired life.  We can move with grace and fluidity instead of tension and resistance.

    Give it a try this week…set an intention to move through your day with ease.  Just give it a shot.  And see what happens…you might be surprised!

    Peace, love and ease, y’all.  Peace, love and ease.

Take the First Step…

There’s a quote from Martin Luther King, Jr. that I love. “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” Lately, I’m finding staircases all around. At least I am seeing the first steps…

I realize that not choosing to take those first steps is a disservice. When I choose not to step out in faith, I am saying to the universe and the powers that be that I believe I know best. How arrogant of me! I ask for opportunities to grow and become the person I am supposed to be, but when I sit in fear, what am I really saying? I’m not acting from a space of gratitude for those opportunities. I am instead shrinking from the responsibilities placed
upon me to do the work.

So, I sit here today, putting out this message so that it is clear: I am taking the first steps. I do not need to see the whole staircase. I trust it is there.

I have many chances being given, so it is with excitement and gratitude that I will accept them all. I will have no expectation other than they are the gifts I have asked for.

So, reader, do you dare join me on the staircase? I would rather fall down the stairs than to never attempt the journey. I hope you find the space to believe that yourself.

What frightens you? I am choosing to think that I cannot fail…so guess
what? I cannot. Neither can you.

Shanti.